Friday, April 15, 2016

Closure

When you think of it, it's so super important to get the closure on things...

If that does not happen, it keeps on lingering in your mind, you keep thinking what if, keep thinking if it was a right decision or wrong?
Why did it happen? If you had done something differently, could it have changed outcome?
If it would have happened, how different and better life would have been.

It's kind of funny!
Sometimes, it's in your hand to get the things to closure, sometimes you have already moved on or even forgotten. Yet, the closure, the reason about why a certain thing happened the way it did, helps! Helps immensely!

Closure is not just a decision though! Its acceptance of it and understanding of it.
Or a realization that sure things didn't happen the way you wanted, but that was for the better, unlike the way you thought when they happened.

Ok, this is getting a way too abstract... Needs example.

Ummmm.... Ummmmmmm..
Went for a job interview. Your Dream job! Interview was super good! You are sure you are gonna get it.  You so much want this job! It's just right work, good money, seems like a good crowd. You are looking forward to it. Clown called Mind has started to think of breaking this news to your present colleagues and boss. And then...You just get a curt mail, we decided to not proceed with your application, thank you for applying. Apply in future blah blah blah….

Why why why? They should tell me why!
There are times when you resign to this as a fact. There are times when you call and try to figure out. In general, it takes some time for you to accept it. But, it still lingers at the back of your mind.

You cleared a job interview in another company. It’s decent. It has work that you like to do, money is decent and crowd is good. Basically everything that you were looking for. But, somehow in one corner of your heart, you are still not happy. Not fully happy. In frustrated moments, you still feel, I should have got my dream job! I would have done wonders then...It's just going on for the sake of it right now.

Interestingly you cannot be 100% sure about how things would have panned out, if you would have actually got the dream job. Maybe you would have flourished or maybe you would have got overwhelmed. You are just in love with the idea of you achieving what you thought you would. And you keep thinking what if in your mind, now and then, sometime in between...

Then one day, you are walking down the road. You meet an old friend, you get excited and start catching up on everything you are up with. The friend incidentally works in same company where you had interview. He tells lots of projects closing suddenly after upper management changed hands. He says, he himself is thinking of looking out.
And Then... AHA!

That's it! That was the reason!
Peace of mind! It's almost like seeing a bright sunlight after the dark clouds have passed over. Breeze.
And that my dear friend is a closure!

The new job you decided to take, does not feel so ordinary any more. You can still do wonders! Right?

Taking an example of professional life is probably a bit silly honestly.
You feel the actual heat in the personal life...

But, well you got the gist...

4 comments:

  1. I felt like you are sitting in front of me and saying all this... :)
    It was so original and "Snehal TYPES" .. :) you know what i mean right?
    So original and un-edited.. I like it... and so much relate to it.

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    1. Hey Kajal, thank you so much! Coming from a best friend who has patiently heard all sort of tirade, its a big compliment!

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  2. Hey Snehal, this sounds really good. Continue the good work!!

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    1. Thank you Sanjubhai! ☺️☺️

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